Get Home

Life Co-Lived

by Maggie Suszka

After a bad mental health day, retreating to your bed with Netflix seems like the perfect antidote. But what if it’s doing more harm than good? While it’s necessary to wind down, it can be easy to fall into the habit of isolating for days at a time, making it harder to bounce back in the long run. But what if you never had alone time? If you were forced to interact with your peers? This might sound a little extreme, but hear me out.

Co-living spaces are redefining the concept of a home as we know it. They have been dubbed everything from a “dorm for grown-ups” to “hacker houses”. They encompass a massively unique and diverse range of models, from co-housing mutuals to options in the private rental sector. They also seek to promote social contact and build community, so much so that some communities have specific focuses – whether it be wellness, creation or creativity, and technology, amongst others. 

Jamie Willock, former resident of Up(st)Art in Hollywood, California lived in the “creative living” space for seven months. UP(st)Art, as defined on its site, is a shared space where artists, actors, musicians, DJs, models, comedians, writers, directors, and dancers can live, play, collaborate, and create together. Willock would not have been able to get his start in Los Angeles had it not been for the affordability of the co-living option. 

“I did not have the income to sustain living in a private apartment on a temporary assistant’s wage. I needed something quick. The plan was always to move out as soon as I found employment,” said Willock “I moved here after turning down a starting job in Chicago at an ad-agency with no car, no money, and not many friends. Up(st)Art allowed me to start up my career in Hollywood. And I wouldn’t take back my decision to live there for anything in the world.” 

Co-living spaces offer people fully furnished spaces to live, eat, cook and meet others. You share common areas including the kitchen, working rooms, and sometimes even yoga rooms and in-home theatres. Many also host events and/or dinners provided by the community to further enhance those connections and relationships. Not all co-living spaces are created equal, though, and they will look different across the globe. (Fun fact: it is gaining popularity amongst young families to try this type of housing!)

There are a few drawbacks to consider when thinking about opting for a co-living option. Including one major haphazard variable: strangers. People who might get on your nerves, get way too up in your space and be fighting for the prime shower hour. Especially if you’re sharing two bathrooms amongst 18 people, as Willock had to do. While he wouldn’t exchange his experience for everything, he felt there were a few “catches”.

“The catch is that you have to live with so many people from different backgrounds while maintaining rules and respecting each other every day. There are many different personalities and living with people after college is definitely different, especially when there are four to six others in bunk beds in each room,” said Willock. 

He said his snoring every night probably did not lend itself to those relationships either. He’s thankful he has shed the weight of 18 other roommates to just one.

But those strangers can help with something we all have or will experience in our lives: loneliness. In a Ted Talk with Grace Kim on how How Cohousing can make us happier (and live longer), she states that loneliness is not a function of being alone, but a function of how socially connected we are to those around us. 

And there’s evidence to back our current state of dissociation and disconnection from our neighborhoods and communities. According to a study commissioned by the community investment platform CNote, two in three millennials don’t feel like they belong to their local community.

Moreover, the study done on 1,000 millennials and 1,000 non-millennials found that 64 percent of the younger generation feel disconnected from their community. 

I spoke to Robert O’Neill, founder of Haven Co-living in sunny Venice and he shared that his inspiration for creating the space was birthed from this same idea and realization of how disassociated and disconnected we are from our fellow neighbors today, especially compared to any past generation. 

O’Neill says Haven was created to help one find their tribe, make friends and live a health, wellness lifestyle in today’s fast paced urban environments.

“We built Haven to connect people that want to live a life of health, wellness and community. We believe one of the greatest aspects of living a healthy life is having people around you that you can support, and who can support you – and Haven was created to cultivate physical communities in an era starving for authentic connection, shared values, and healthier lifestyles,” expressed O’Neill.

From the CNote study, it found that millennials are nearly twice as likely to say they didn’t have enough free time to participate in their community compared to non-millennials (51 percent vs. 33 percent). Therefore, living alongside others and strangers and sharing a bedroom forces that connection in a unique way.

However, sometimes this connection still isn’t as easy, or natural, as it seems in these spaces. 

“I was not able to get close to many of the other residents because I was temping for an entertainment company while applying for jobs every day. I did not have enough time to build up friendships and speak with others in depth about their passion. It was also difficult for me to attend all of the events that the community provided each member,” said Willock. 

The benefits of co-living aren’t so obvious when you focus in on having to share everything – from a room to a shower, and really don’t have much time to really connect with the community. 

O’Neill insister the real benefit is finding like-minded people who refinorce your own values and inspire you to live a more fulfilling life. 

“Haven’s community is comprised of people who want to share with others and are willing to try out new experiences,” said O’Neill, “That culture is imbued in the Haven experience and is the key difference between our co-living community and living in an apartment complex – not to mention all the amenities, activities and membership benefits.”

Are you asking yourself if you’re ready for co-living at this point? It’s not for everyone. If you’re not someone who can let go of old habits, or accept peoples’ faults (and gifts), and/or step out of your comfort zone – co-living is not for you. And if you don’t want to have a top bunk or smaller closet, those are other things to keep in mind.

However, co-living seems to be a once in a lifetime experience. “It’s one of those things that you remember and look fondly back upon later in life. Finding a space that empowers you, challenges you, and accepts you as you are is a powerful experience even if its only an experience that lasts a few months,” echoed O’Neill.

Co-living can be a platform for a better life. A stepping stone that helps you discover your passions, pursue them, live your healthiest life, and find authentic friendships. Sign me up.

Feature Image via Emma Craft

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Let us slide into your inbox with things that'll make you feel good.
Read more

Polisi rahasia bermain di situs Pertaruhan Poker Online paling dipercaya untuk beberapa pemula 2019 Untuk beberapa player perintis, terkadang mereka masih gelisah dan belum tahu apa yang butuh mereka lakukan agar bisa menang pada permainan judi di web Judi Poker Online mengelokkan dipercaya. Nah kalaupun mempergunakan langkah menang bermain pada situs pokerqq paling dipercaya, tetapi pastilah bukan langkah hebat yang butuh dipelajari tetapi langkah yg biasa saja. dalam hal ini, kamu harus bisa tahu secara benar berkaitan cara-cara teristimewa yg bisa dibutuhkan. Dikau semestinya bisa tahu serta tahu jika ada kurang lebih langkah teristimewa yg mampu anda terapkan dan punyai kekuatan menang meskipun dikau hanya player pemula. Untuk beberapa pemula, diantaranya mengenai jadi masalaj adalah kepandaian. Karena mereka belum demikian memiliki pengalaman, jadi kemudian akan ada banyak kesalahan yg digerakkan karena memang dikit tahu berkaitan segala sesuatu –apa saja yang butuh dan tidak harus digerakkan. Anda semestinya bisa optimis dengan betul-betul baik berselok-belok apa yang butuh & tidak harusdijalankan. Dalam langkah teristimewa yg bisa ditangani, memang yg anda sepatutnya perhatikan dengan baik merupakan berkaitan cara-cara yg cuma sesuai dengan dan sesuai untuk pemula saja. Kurang lebih trick menang bermain pada situs Judi Poker On line paling dipercaya pas untuk pemula Jika anda benar-benar masih pemula, jadi kamu harus bisa mencari info dan studi cara-cara paling istimewa yg cocok dan serasi dengan juga bikin pemula. Dalam hal ini, dikau harus bisa coba menelaah informasi dari beberapa sumber pelajari sampai anda bakal tahu apa yang zakar dan tidak harus digerakkan. Anda harus bisa manfaatkan cara-cara menang main di situs Judi Poker Online paling dipercaya yg selama ini sudah serius sesuai dengan dan bagus bikin digerakkan. Anda harus bisa studi semua dengan sahih, dan tersebut cara-cara yang sesuai dengan untuk pemula: Berusaha sebaik-baiknya pahami sajian – cara pertama yang butuh untuk anda lakukan adalah bagaimana anda mampu berusaha sebaik-baiknya pahami sajian. Wacana akan permainan oleh sebab itu kunci penting yg butuh sekali bikin dikendalikan jika anda nyata-nyata benar akan mendapatkan kemenangan dan sukses seterusnya dalam permainan itu. Tips untuk pemula di bermain di situs poker online IDN paling dipercaya Cari berbagai peluang gaji – setelah itu kamu juga harus bisa mengetahui dan tahu berkaitan gimana anda bisa mendapatkan moral. Selama ini banyak yang mempunyai asumsi jika bikin bisa mendapatkan penghasilan, jadi kita harus menang di permainan itu. walau aktual itu sebetulnya tidak tunak benar karena ada selalu peluang yg bisa kamu dapatkan meskipun tidak unggul seperti dari bonus & promo. Bermain dengan jalan bertahap saja – guna player pemula, pola serta cara bermain yg akan digerakkan serta digerakkan sewajarnya memang digerakkan dengan jalan bertahap saja. bermain secara bertahap itu perlu amat bikin digerakkan karena dengan begitu, anda bisa mencari ilmu dari masing-masing stage yg anda patuhi itu. silahkan anda bertahap saja cantik dalam memastikan level sajian atau tempatkan deposit. Selalu konsentrasi tetapi jangan secepatnya – sikap konsentrasi serta tenang jadi bagian berarti lain yg anda sepatutnya kuasai dengan baik. Kalau anda bisa konsentrasi di bermain, jadi anda bisa keuntungan banyak dimana dikau bisa tenang mainkan semata. Coba untuk anda dapat konsentrasi saja dalam tampil karena dengan begitu, oleh karena itu anda bisa banyak moral. Gunakan beberapa cara di atas jadi diantaranya sesi trik agar anda mampu menang mudah. Tidak cuma beberapa cara di atas, ada banyak sebetulnya trik dan langkah menang permainan di situs Judi poker online paling dipercaya yg bisa anda gunakan dalam permain poker online itu.